So , im 20 a years old guy and i am having hard time gathering guts to make moves on girls. Reason would have to be , when i was around 15 and i was a foreigner here and i guess i had a "lame" tag on my forehead by my soundings (Friends , classmates etc.) . I started to have a feeling for this girl in another class , and i told my friend about it , and few mins later the whole class heard about it as well and after few mins more the whole school. Ppl started to really making fun of me for it and embarrassing me in front of other ppl. At some point it was really painful so i started to get over her and move on. After few more tries , same things happened , liked a girl , friends made fun of me in front of her and repeat for quite some time, i really started feeling hate and burning inside me.I remember guys stick together as a group and helping their friends when need help for going up to a girl , for me was the opposite . This lowered my self-esteem for quite ALOT and now im having trouble "manning up" about. Im not sure if im the only one who still after 4-5 years i still cannot get the encouragement i need to do it. I guess i also see my self as "lame" after all the bashing at school and might be the mean reason. What would you guys suggest me to do.
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